December 7, 2017, Middle Pillar, Tiferet Sepheroth
Thursday, White Electric Mirror, Kin 198, Root Chakra
In this Paradise Section, we are gathering glimpses of the return of our beautiful Original Human/Divine Selves. We, the Divine Male and the Divine Female are remembering who we are, and how we sacredly relate to each other. There is much written now by males about how males have wandered from their original birthright and how to return to themselves. Most of this work must be done by the males.
However, the balance of trust in the male, must return as the surrender to the feminine is achieved. It’s called yin/yang and each individual must achieve this balance in his/her own self in order for this balance to embody in his/her self.
From Mark Greene: – Remaking Manhood “Mansplaining 101 for Men: Why We Do It”
“A fear-based need to project competency is at the core of mansplaining. But you already knew that.”
Mansplaining is rooted in how we are taught to connect and form relationships.
For generations, America’s culture of masculinity has taught boys and men to suppress their emotional expression. To this day, we coach our sons to present a facade of emotional toughness and our daughters to admire that facade in men. Even in infancy, little boys are expected to begin modeling emotional stoicism, confidence, physical toughness and independence. The strong and silent type remains a central American symbol of “real manhood.”
Boys are taught to hide their emotional expression in very public spaces and in highly public ways. Boys form their friendships amidst a relentless barrage of microagressions, bullying, call outs and sarcasm designed to weed out any atypical performances of manhood, force social conformity, and slot boys into the pecking orders that make up their social world. Go to article to Read More …
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“Why Men’s friendships can feel so empty.”
Quoted from UpLiftConnect.com: Mark Greene: “Why Men’s friendships can feel so empty.”
How to Create Meaningful Relat-MAN-ships
“Will you be my friend?” When is the last time you heard one man ask another that simple question? Little boys do it every day on the playground, but sometime around first grade, boys stop asking that question and they never ask it again. Because it quickly becomes an invitation for derision, sarcasm and rejection. Imagine Frank walks into a bar. He approaches a group of men from work. One guy says, “Frank, meet Bob.” They all chat for a while and then Frank says brightly, “Bob! I’m glad I met you. I like you. How would you like to be my friend?”
“Cue the shocked stares. Because Frank just broke the ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ rule of male friendship. Don’t admit you want or need friends. Don’t admit you need anything. Be confident. Be self reliant. Only if you don’t need friends will you be worthy of having them.”
“The Question Men Won’t Ask”
“The reason most American men would never ask another man directly to enter into a friendship is because boys and men in American culture are given little or no opportunity in life to master this kind of interpersonal risk taking. It creates a moment of uncertainty that is agonizing for men. To ask for friendship suggests vulnerability, flexible social standing or even willingness to admit need. All values which are roundly condemned in men.”
“As boys, males have no inhibitions when making new friends, so what changes?”
“American men are taught from an early age to access friendships obliquely, by joining clearly defined groups, teams or organizations. The opportunities for social contact arise in Boy Scouts, on baseball teams or in schools. This kind of social organizing aligns large populations of boys, teaching them to follow clear and simple rules of how to perform being a boy. Some organizations actually provide written hand books, manuals by which to determine rank, achievement, behavior and appropriate forms of expression. The Boy Scout handbook is one obvious example.” Go to article to Read More …
